Are You Really the Average of the People You Often Spend Time With?


“You are the average of the five people you often spend time with,” they say.

Syntactically and semantically, that sentence has a complete thought. But philosophically, it’s incomplete.

Even if they put Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, Elon Musk, Mark Zuckerberg, Jeff Bezos, and you together in one apartment for 10 years, if you’re as stubborn as a newly dehorned goat, if the strength of your desire to suck as much knowledge as possible is far from being on par with the intensity of the passion of the five guys to teach you, if you lack self-discipline, if you don’t teach yourself how to make self-motivation a natural phenomenon for you, you’re more likely to be seen as a jinx rather than a protegee.

On the contrary, even if they put you together with 5 lazy, undisciplined, unmotivated, cry-babies-in-the-flesh-of-adults in one apartment for 10 years, if people mistake you for the MacGyver for your resourcefulness, if you make people around you feel that they’ve never seen such a human being in their whole life who desires to know more than what they are capable of teaching, you can be as hydrophobic-esque as a taro leaf in repelling the lazy, undisciplined, and unmotivated characteristics of other people.

I know what most people will say.

“Oh, well, the genes of the inbred Neanderthals and Homo sapiens are not fully developed yet to produce a new human species that will fit your point, Jaycee.”

I know developing and sustaining self-discipline, self-motivation, and self-taught characteristics is hard. It’s good to network with people whom you look up to, but you got to make it your assignment to match the level of their passion to mentor you with your enthusiasm to learn.

Jaycee De Guzman

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