In Your Marriage, Are You a Listener or a Talk-er?


The Pope was right.

In Your Marriage, Are You a Listener or a Talk-er
In my married life, I didn’t start as a listener but a talk-er.
I still remember how I didn’t want to give up every time my wife spoke of something that put me in a defensive mode. I always had something to say on anything and everything under the sun.

Time went by. Thank God, little by little, I have learned that it’s not enough to just SEE and FEEL what’s important. I got to HEAR it, too. That’s how I learned how to LISTEN to understand and not to reply.

Many fights were prevented from happening the moment I learned how to listen.

In school, we were taught that communication is a two-way process. You talk and the other person listens and waits for his or her turn to speak. When you’re done talking, you listen and the other person speaks.

In marriage, “talking” is not the primary and only ingredient of communication. As a matter-of-factly, it’s the “listening” that makes me enjoy my conversation with my wife.

Husbands, since you’re my kind, can I just talk to you?
Maybe you’re the motivational speaker in the house but your wife needs a motivational listener, too. Give up the “motivational speaker badge for your wife. Anyway, studies show that women talk almost three times as much as men, with the average woman chalking up 20,000 words in a day – 13,000 more than the average man. Let your wife be the motivational speaker and you as the motivational listener. 🙂

Jaycee De Guzman

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